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Thursday, June 30, 2011

"Words" - Train

[BTW, if you have not heard the above mentioned song . . . ya.... you'll want to]
[also - this post is non-running related {yes, I had one heck of a workout x 2 today but that's not what's on my mind today} so you've been warned].

Last night the Pita and I had a LONG. LONG. LONG.

LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOONG. Talk.

the. best. talk. in. years. The one where you start it at 9pm and you feel like it's been 14 minutes but it's really been 94 minutes.

We. got. talking. about. words.

Yep.
Words.
Simple. little. words.

The words we choose say a lot about the kind of person we are.

When talking to friends, family, even strangers, our conversation and disposition reflect our insides like a crystal clear, well lit mirror.

I'm 100% guilty of not always speaking kindly. I'm highly emotional. And unfortunately, [can be] highly [HIGHLY] reactive. I remember in my [pre-home business days] asking some folks to do their job [on a project we were working on]. I'm sure I didn't always demonstrate that nicer way.

Flash forward a few years. Semi-maturity sets in with life/marriage/family experience. Unexpected opportunities and heartbreaks put the big picture in perspective.

Believe it or not . . . . . I've [actually] mellowed, I've accepted, I've gained a better sense of reality.

Swear words rarely cross my lips, and these days I make a point of profusely thanking people for their kind deeds or the work they do to compliment my own projects/plans.

Sure, I still occasionally fall into the trap that is called snarky, but by in large I try to live with an open heart and mind and kindness in my words [or at least make sure I AM NOT intentionally hurtful].

But.
Man.
Snarky
can
be
fun.

It feels good when we say something that makes everyone chuckle or roll their eyes or respond.

Doesn't it feel great when people think you're funny? And blonde + funny does NOT = stupid funny. ;)

Humor has a way of making us each an easy mark. Go ahead. Make fun of my toenails or lack thereof. Some of the clothes I wear? They've probably got a target on 'em. The sucktastic race I just had. Some of the stuff I do? Heck yes, I bet you can find the humor in that, too.

However, humor with an intent to hurt makes me question the source's motives. It makes me question the source's insecurities.

I'm grateful for all of the challenges I've fought through [as well as my family] in the past 4-5 years. They've f r e a k i n g made me stronger, and they've given me the right to only care about the stuff and people who really matter.

Adversity is a gift.

And I'm choosing my words carefully.

Thanks P.D.M.

18 comments:

SupermomE12 said...

What an awesome post! I think (especially with technology) that people tend to forget how much impact good or bad that their words can have. I have always been pretty careful about what I say and how I say it, and err on the side of being too kind and gracious BUT, on the flip side, I have had to work a lot on not being too sensitive when people say harsh things that they probably didn't mean to sound the way that they did.

Having kids of several different races and a severely handicapped child give you lots of opportunities to be offended (or not). I am working on the not. :)

XLMIC said...

I <3 you, Emz.
Sounds like we have lived mirror lives... but you with better abs and me with more kids :P
I know I need to watch my Snarkmeter... my lack of filter sometimes makes that difficult ;-)

Tri-Living...Together said...

Wow did you write this for me?? I can be very emotional especially if it's a topic I am passionate about. I have always believed words hold so much power and we should be good stewards of the gift of speech. Once you say it.. it's out there!!

Kat said...

Truly a great post...and words to reflect on.

Thanks for sharing.

This was simply awesome.

Caroline said...

First Train is one of my favorite band. I love them, they are touring with another band I love Maroon 5 this summer...dying to go see them. love that song.

This post confirms what I knew:

You have a GOOD Heart.

You know not everyone does.
For real. does not mean they are bad people but I think it means they are not happy folks.

For my kindness is important.
I tell my boys everyday. Be kind.
And so far I think they are on their way to be kind men. It is not always the easiest choice but as far as I know it is almost always the best one.

I am all for good humor you know that. Good humor is healthy.
Mean humor...well it hurts. who needs that right?

Chris K said...

EMZ, I invite you to never choose your words carefully with me. You can continue being your snarky self. I think it's hilarious. I love how I always win our little snarky twitter battles. Nice try though kid.

Kelly Leigh said...

such a good post. I was having this conversation with someone at work yesterday. He was kind of rude to the customer and I called him out on it. I have to admit I love making fun of people, but I try to never do it with the intention to hurt them.

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